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It seems like every day, there is a new famous couple who is breaking up or getting a divorce. With the divorce rate at around 50 percent, something has gone horrendously wrong. I have such a hard time watching a marriage dissolve on reality TV. Kim Kardashian, a socialite who has too much money and too little personality, was married to NBA player Kris Humphries for 72 days. They have a reality TV show where the whole nation - make that world - can watch the 72 days unravel. The entire time I am watching this show, it is so blatantly obvious that Kim has no clue whatsoever about what love really is.

The Kardashians have had several reality TV shows, including a $20 million wedding special of Kim and Kris' nuptials. Throughout the pre-marital shows, Kim and Kris are "in love." They both gush about how much they love each other, and they want to spend the rest of their lives together. As soon as they are married, everything that Kris does bothers Kim. Kim expects Kris to be at her every beck and call. Kris tries to exert his "manhood" to prove that he will not be manipulated by Kim. They get caught in this crazy cycle of unloving and selfish behavior. It all comes down to a warped sense of what love truly is. Kim is selfish, unwilling to compromise, and not once does she think of her husband, his desires or his needs.

It is my prayer that we all learn what real love is. Do not buy into the reality TV version of what the secular world teaches you is love. The Bible says in I Corinthians that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

Love is not just the butterflies you get in your stomach or the fairy tale that a little girl dreams of when she is growing up. Love is a commitment. It is committing to someone that you will cherish them for always. Love is hard. It's not easy to put someone else first, and it's not easy to change yourself for the sake of someone else. Love is a choice. It is a choice every day to willingly put that person's life and well-being above one's own. It is not easy, and it is not always roses and rainbows.

Love is willingly sacrificing your own happiness to see a smile on that person's face. If you are not willing to sacrifice, or if you are having feelings of resentment toward that person for what you have given up, then it is not love, and you need to understand that is not love. If the other person isn't willing to give and sacrifice, then they simply do not love you, no matter what they say. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't see how awesome you are. Love is a two-way street, and if someone doesn't love you the way you are, he is the one who is missing out. Love him, be kind to him, then move on.

God has someone so special for you, and He is preparing someone for you. So prepare yourself for that person. Remember that it will be on His timing for your life, not yours. So if you do not have that someone in your life, then you need to ask God what He wants you to learn about love, so that you can prepare yourself to love unconditionally, because it's that hardest thing you will ever have to do.
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