Resources

Having been through two divorces, I thought it would be great to share some of the resources I used to heal and grow in my relationship with the Lord. Obviously, my blog is a great resource, too!

Must-Read Books

Love and Marriage

How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Getting the Love You Want by Dr. Harville Hendrix
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Keep Your Love On: Connection, Communication and Boundaries by Danny Silk

Fighting for Your Marriage

Waiting for His Heart: Lessons from a Wife Who Chose to Stay by Joy McClain
A Fierce Love: One Woman's Courageous Journey to Save Her Marriage by Shauna Shanks

Understanding Men

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn
Men Who Hate Women & The Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why by Susan Forward, Ph.D.
Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul by John Eldredge

Healing

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves
When Happily Ever After Shatters: Seeing God in the Midst of Divorce & Single Parenting by Sue Birdseye
How to Stop the Pain by Dr. James Richards

Must-Listen Podcasts

The Overcoming Life with Jimmy Evans
Marriage Today with Jimmy Evans
Pastor Robert Morris Ministries
Elevation with Steven Furtick
Todd White Podcast

Must-Watch YouTube Videos

Bob Hamp Freedom Series:

Dr. Les Carter:

Jeff Durbin

Dharius Daniels

Pastor John Stickl: Reclaiming my Heart
John Eldredge: Breaking Soul Ties

Awesome YouTube Channels to Check Out

Dharius Daniels TV
Gateway Church Southlake, Texas with Pastor Robert Morris
Gateway Church Phoenix, Arizona with Pastor Preston Morrison
Gateway Worship
Marriage Today
Elevation Church with Pastor Steven Furtick
Ron Carpenter Ministries
Embassy City Church with Pastor Tim Ross

Some of my favorite worship songs by year.
Songs of 2019

Songs of 2020

Disclaimer: I have read all of the books, and I highly recommend them. The specific YouTube Videos I have linked to, I have watched and endorse them. The podcasts and YouTube channels, I have seen a number of them, but I have not watched every episode, so please know that some of their material, I may not necessarily agree with.

Jesus Would Advocate for Civil Disobedience

In March, executive orders from governors across the country forced us to stay home, to close schools and churches and to shut down private businesses. Businesses were classified as either "essential" or "non-essential." All businesses deemed "non-essential" were forced to close. This included markets, clothing stores, boutiques, dine-in restaurants, and beauty salons. State parks, city parks, beaches, walking trails, lakes, and other wide open spaces were closed as well. Many people feel that the "social distancing," as it has come to be known, and stay at home executive orders violate their constitutional rights, such as our First Amendment right to freely exercise our religion, our right to peaceably assemble, and that we shall not be deprived of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Some of the people who feel their rights have been violated have decided to exercise their First Amendment right to protest. Some have even chosen...

Covert Red Flags: The Real Things You Should Be Looking Out For in Relationships

Your relationship with your spouse should be the closest human relationship you ever have. As we are dating, we are assessing whether or not that person could potentially fit into our inner circle. This causes us to be on high alert for red flags. Most red flags are obvious--lack of communication, anger issues, irresponsibility, controlling behavior, abuse, etc. A quick Google search will bring up list upon list of red flags we should look out for. Being rude to waitstaff, not making your relationship public, not caring about XYZ, stone walling, gaslighting, and more can all be found on most lists. But what about the covert red flags? Those things that are less obvious. My first marriage taught me to look out for the overt red flags like the ones found in every advice column. My second marriage taught me to look out for covert red flags, ones that I never even realized were red flags until I could look back. The entire time we dated, I kept looking for the overt red fla...

Because of Who I Am

Someone posted on Facebook the other day the following: Why would you fight for someone who clearly doesn't want you? Please let them go. You are valuable, just not to them. I thought about it for a minute, because I indeed fought for my husband when he clearly didn't want me. I fought for our marriage, even when he had zero interest in making our marriage work. He had already checked out and told me point-blank that he just didn't want to work on our marriage, but yet I fought on my knees before the Lord. Throughout the first few months of our separation, I prayed day-in and day-out. I beseeched the Lord to intercede. I rebuked Satan, and I prostrated myself before the Lord God Almighty. I went to therapy, and I watched sermons online. I listened to every Jimmy Evans podcast I could find. I journaled and devoured God's Word. I wrote my husband scriptures and prayers daily. I soon filled a 100-page journal front and back. Shortly after he left in June...

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